One thing that’s often suggested and relates to what you stated here, is getting rid of one’s reliance on the affect heuristic which leads to halo effects and ugh fields. We naturally tend to assume that folks we find attractive most likely have other good qualities, and folks we find unattractive most likely lack them. However, this is an instance of biased thinking; as a matter of fact, there’s only a very weak correlation, if any at all, between attractiveness and other relevant features. Most people do not realize this at all, and those who do often report being surprised and state that they only learned this through hard experience.
One thing that’s often suggested and relates to what you stated here, is getting rid of one’s reliance on the affect heuristic which leads to halo effects and ugh fields. We naturally tend to assume that folks we find attractive most likely have other good qualities, and folks we find unattractive most likely lack them. However, this is an instance of biased thinking; as a matter of fact, there’s only a very weak correlation, if any at all, between attractiveness and other relevant features. Most people do not realize this at all, and those who do often report being surprised and state that they only learned this through hard experience.