In my estimation, it is very difficult to cultivate an atractiveness function that does not highly value physical appearance. If you can do it, I think you will have made one of the most potentially important (and utility-bearing) moves on the board.
From my observation, the novelty on sexual attraction tends to be high, and fade relatively quickly. In contrast, intellectual/emotional intimacy (and just generally enjoying your lover’s company) can have a sustained (and even increasing) value over the course of many, many decades...as well as having a compounding effect on other areas of your partner’s attractiveness in your eyes.
It sounds so cliche that I’m having a hard time typing it without rolling my eyes and making a sour face...but… when it comes to love, find your best friend. Minimize the concern over physical attraction for the sake of optimizing toward a more comprehensive overall criteria.
We are, after all, all on the slow train to Uglyville. (Even the really pretty ones.) You’d be wise (and rational) to enjoy your company during the ride by choosing a mate on much more than looks.
In my estimation, it is very difficult to cultivate an atractiveness function that does not highly value physical appearance. If you can do it, I think you will have made one of the most potentially important (and utility-bearing) moves on the board.
From my observation, the novelty on sexual attraction tends to be high, and fade relatively quickly. In contrast, intellectual/emotional intimacy (and just generally enjoying your lover’s company) can have a sustained (and even increasing) value over the course of many, many decades...as well as having a compounding effect on other areas of your partner’s attractiveness in your eyes.
It sounds so cliche that I’m having a hard time typing it without rolling my eyes and making a sour face...but… when it comes to love, find your best friend. Minimize the concern over physical attraction for the sake of optimizing toward a more comprehensive overall criteria.
We are, after all, all on the slow train to Uglyville. (Even the really pretty ones.) You’d be wise (and rational) to enjoy your company during the ride by choosing a mate on much more than looks.