I think one way to get deep criticism / feedback is to start a “success spiral” in that direction. That is, start with requesting and responding to small feedback that’s easy for the other person to give and for you to receive and implement.
That would likely help with “I’m not feeling secure enough to be properly open to criticism.” I predict that the more general interaction you have + Alexei’s points, the more likely it is that you’ll both feel secure.
There may also be external factors that are harder to overcome like power imbalances (imagine a janitor employed by an janitorial company trying to criticize the CEO in the office building who leaves litter everywhere).
This post reminds me of this one: https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/jkvAYpzjk8DF5tszD/conflict-the-rules-of-engagement-and-professionalism And I agree with both pretty strongly.
I think one way to get deep criticism / feedback is to start a “success spiral” in that direction. That is, start with requesting and responding to small feedback that’s easy for the other person to give and for you to receive and implement.
That would likely help with “I’m not feeling secure enough to be properly open to criticism.” I predict that the more general interaction you have + Alexei’s points, the more likely it is that you’ll both feel secure.
There may also be external factors that are harder to overcome like power imbalances (imagine a janitor employed by an janitorial company trying to criticize the CEO in the office building who leaves litter everywhere).