No—that entire concept is still stuck in the same worldview you have now, where people’s status is determined by the worth of their accomplishments in the eyes of another. That’s the bit of your worldview that needs to die, not be reinforced!
More specifically, it’s the rule that says your status is lowered by not having such accomplishents. It’s perfectly okay to believe that having more accomplishments raises your status, so long as the lack of accomplishments doesn’t take you below the level of status required for health and happiness.
That’s how people with healthy motivation act—they feel more pride when they accomplish things, but there’s no threat to their pride when they’re not doing anything… and thus no vicious cycle of negative motivation.
Again, thank you for the whack from the Clue Stick. Sometimes you have to hear the same thing in several different ways before you understand it.
Oh, and I really am feeling a lot better now. At least for the moment.
I’m about to drop this thread of conversation, because it seems to me that you’re starting to think I’m your therapist or life coach or something. If you want to fix your brain, I’ll help, but I’m not going to keep dragging you back to pay attention to the part of things that actually needs fixing.
That was the part where I start acting on my positive motivation. ;)
Oh, and I really am feeling a lot better now. At least for the moment.
One thing you should be aware of is that SASS rules are often highly contextual, and removing the action of a rule in one context doesn’t necessarily mean you’ve gotten rid of it in another context, or that you don’t have overlapping and partially-redundant rules.
So, even if you’ve now removed the “unworthy if you don’t accomplish to standards” rule (and I’m not certain you have, without testing), be aware that this doesn’t equal removing all your status-negating rules, let alone your rules for other types of SASS.
By being aware of that, you’ll be less likely to conclude the whole thing is a failure, the next time a SASS-threat feeling occurs.
(This is important, btw—I went through a lot of ups and downs before I realized that the mere existence of another SASS threat after I thought I’d fixed something did NOT equal “I failed as a person and a self-help guru” and therefore justify further lowering my SASS! Recursion and paradox are always a mindhacker’s close companions, though luckily not in an exponential-blowup kind of way. More like a loops-implemented-with-recursion way. But I digress.)
That was the part where I start acting on my positive motivation. ;)
Again, thank you for the whack from the Clue Stick. Sometimes you have to hear the same thing in several different ways before you understand it.
Oh, and I really am feeling a lot better now. At least for the moment.
That was the part where I start acting on my positive motivation. ;)
One thing you should be aware of is that SASS rules are often highly contextual, and removing the action of a rule in one context doesn’t necessarily mean you’ve gotten rid of it in another context, or that you don’t have overlapping and partially-redundant rules.
So, even if you’ve now removed the “unworthy if you don’t accomplish to standards” rule (and I’m not certain you have, without testing), be aware that this doesn’t equal removing all your status-negating rules, let alone your rules for other types of SASS.
By being aware of that, you’ll be less likely to conclude the whole thing is a failure, the next time a SASS-threat feeling occurs.
(This is important, btw—I went through a lot of ups and downs before I realized that the mere existence of another SASS threat after I thought I’d fixed something did NOT equal “I failed as a person and a self-help guru” and therefore justify further lowering my SASS! Recursion and paradox are always a mindhacker’s close companions, though luckily not in an exponential-blowup kind of way. More like a loops-implemented-with-recursion way. But I digress.)
Ah, ok, good then.
Okay.