I notice that the tasks you list as “don’t take effort” map closely to how I would describe stereotypes of tasks that are “women’s work”, and I often see what it takes to remember them and make sure they happen described as “emotional labor”. I wonder to what extent the perception of “takes effort” may map to, or stem from, “see it culturally praised/rewarded”.
I would be interested in reading more about how you balance the “it’s ok to take it easy some/much of the time” mindset with still making good progress on the things you find important, because that’s something I struggle with myself. I craft some illusion of balance by fluctuating between being too strict with myself for the sake of productivity and too lenient with myself for various diverse excuses that dress up as good reasons, but I find the stable midpoint quite elusive.
I notice that the tasks you list as “don’t take effort” map closely to how I would describe stereotypes of tasks that are “women’s work”, and I often see what it takes to remember them and make sure they happen described as “emotional labor”. I wonder to what extent the perception of “takes effort” may map to, or stem from, “see it culturally praised/rewarded”.
I would be interested in reading more about how you balance the “it’s ok to take it easy some/much of the time” mindset with still making good progress on the things you find important, because that’s something I struggle with myself. I craft some illusion of balance by fluctuating between being too strict with myself for the sake of productivity and too lenient with myself for various diverse excuses that dress up as good reasons, but I find the stable midpoint quite elusive.