Even the physical act of having sex does not bring much physical pleasure for me and I’ve never felt that a sexual connection was of any particular importance for me. At the same time, I realize it is not likely that a compatible female will feel this way
The impression I get is that when a couple disagrees about the frequency of sex, in the majority of cases it’s the man that wants more and the woman that wants less—so even if you’re at the low end of the distribution of sexual appetite for men, chances are there’ll be more women around that level.
The problem with this sort of thinking is that women may not express a desire for sexual contact, but they still are strongly influenced by oxytocin / emotional intimacy from love-making.
Also, as an anhedonic (complication of autism) -- I would note that there really aren’t many women ‘down in my level’ as it were. I personally have suspicions that in this category, as in so many other, the bell-curve distribution of motivation/interest/promiscuity is far denser towards the mean in women than it is in men. Same rough average, but fewer outliers.
The impression I get is that when a couple disagrees about the frequency of sex, in the majority of cases it’s the man that wants more and the woman that wants less—so even if you’re at the low end of the distribution of sexual appetite for men, chances are there’ll be more women around that level.
The problem with this sort of thinking is that women may not express a desire for sexual contact, but they still are strongly influenced by oxytocin / emotional intimacy from love-making.
Also, as an anhedonic (complication of autism) -- I would note that there really aren’t many women ‘down in my level’ as it were. I personally have suspicions that in this category, as in so many other, the bell-curve distribution of motivation/interest/promiscuity is far denser towards the mean in women than it is in men. Same rough average, but fewer outliers.