My expectation is that this varies. My subjective experience when I’ve been on the “angry person” end of this is something like:
a) yes, I’m motivated to stay angry for the sorts of reasons that you describe
b) the mechanism by which I (sometimes/usually/hopefully?) successfully step out of the “unwarranted anger” state is by focusing on the fact (or, exploring whether it seems accurate) that the other person couldn’t have actually known the the thing. And in some cases, when I nonetheless feel the need to be angry at _something_, try to shift that anger towards “the universe”.
(If the angry person isn’t trying to cooperate, none of this may matter. But information empathy has felt relevant in my experience towards updating to emotional states that I endorse)
My expectation is that this varies. My subjective experience when I’ve been on the “angry person” end of this is something like:
a) yes, I’m motivated to stay angry for the sorts of reasons that you describe
b) the mechanism by which I (sometimes/usually/hopefully?) successfully step out of the “unwarranted anger” state is by focusing on the fact (or, exploring whether it seems accurate) that the other person couldn’t have actually known the the thing. And in some cases, when I nonetheless feel the need to be angry at _something_, try to shift that anger towards “the universe”.
(If the angry person isn’t trying to cooperate, none of this may matter. But information empathy has felt relevant in my experience towards updating to emotional states that I endorse)