On the topic of how to make yourself attractive to women if you a low-conscientiousness man who would like to be—watch the film Bigand read a bit about transactional analysis.** Big is all about how someone who is naturally in the free child ego state (because he’s a child) functions in an audit world, and the answer is surprising well (it’s fiction, there’s a high level of verisimilitude for it’s time). Most of the work-world, most of the time, is in critical parent (especially during the current culture war era) or adapted child, and very very rarely in the good states—adult or free child. Be like Josh in the beginning of the movie (not towards the end where he sells out and gets all critical parent and then is like “oh shit, I need to go back to free child because that was way better.”)
The five ego states in transactional analysis
** This is advice coming from a Xennial, and I get them impression there may be a generation gap here, so everything may be different now. But I have a hunch this would still work. You may also need some amount of openness to experience to make this happen (if you’re reading LessWrong, you probably have that). Also assuming I’m talking to another straight male, and apologies if I’m wrong there.
If I’m right about the generational gap, let drop some other avuncular advice here:
Low-conscientiousness doesn’t sentence you fail at school or other things, it just means you have to make a heroic effort at times to be disciplined when you need to be. Don’t fight it when you need to do it, just realize you need to do it now, but that you don’t need to do it all the time.
High-conscientiousness people will have an advantage in school, for sure, because it’s all about being busy doing what you’re told to do. At some point in life when people aren’t giving them specific directions, their high-conscientiousness will stop being a super power and low-conscientiousness people will have a chance to “catch up.” Until then you need to muddle through, graduate, then find a job where it behooves you to be creative.
On the topic of how to make yourself attractive to women if you a low-conscientiousness man who would like to be—watch the film Big and read a bit about transactional analysis.** Big is all about how someone who is naturally in the free child ego state (because he’s a child) functions in an audit world, and the answer is surprising well (it’s fiction, there’s a high level of verisimilitude for it’s time). Most of the work-world, most of the time, is in critical parent (especially during the current culture war era) or adapted child, and very very rarely in the good states—adult or free child. Be like Josh in the beginning of the movie (not towards the end where he sells out and gets all critical parent and then is like “oh shit, I need to go back to free child because that was way better.”)
** This is advice coming from a Xennial, and I get them impression there may be a generation gap here, so everything may be different now. But I have a hunch this would still work. You may also need some amount of openness to experience to make this happen (if you’re reading LessWrong, you probably have that). Also assuming I’m talking to another straight male, and apologies if I’m wrong there.
If I’m right about the generational gap, let drop some other avuncular advice here:
Low-conscientiousness doesn’t sentence you fail at school or other things, it just means you have to make a heroic effort at times to be disciplined when you need to be. Don’t fight it when you need to do it, just realize you need to do it now, but that you don’t need to do it all the time.
High-conscientiousness people will have an advantage in school, for sure, because it’s all about being busy doing what you’re told to do. At some point in life when people aren’t giving them specific directions, their high-conscientiousness will stop being a super power and low-conscientiousness people will have a chance to “catch up.” Until then you need to muddle through, graduate, then find a job where it behooves you to be creative.