I like to be around people who don’t constantly emphasize their every word, making it hard to tell when something is actually important. Since swearing is a verbal marker of importance, its casual overuse is like shouting all the time; it’s very wearying. And, lest I be accused of rationalising, I do not only apply this to children, but have also asked my wife to cut back on swearing.
As a side note, Americans are very loud, both in the literal sense of putting more decibels behind their voices, and in their over-reliance on swearing. I think you’ve fallen into the bad equilibrium that comes about when everyone has an incentive to be a little louder than the next guy, and there’s no cost to being so.
I like to be around people who don’t constantly emphasize their every word, making it hard to tell when something is actually important. Since swearing is a verbal marker of importance, its casual overuse is like shouting all the time; it’s very wearying. And, lest I be accused of rationalising, I do not only apply this to children, but have also asked my wife to cut back on swearing.
Thank you for this. I’ve been wondering reflectively why I’ve been swearing more frequently lately, and I just realized that it’s to make sure my voice is heard. I’ll try to attack the root of this and instead get my attention-validation from having good things to say rather than saying them most crassly.
I like to be around people who don’t constantly emphasize their every word, making it hard to tell when something is actually important. Since swearing is a verbal marker of importance, its casual overuse is like shouting all the time; it’s very wearying. And, lest I be accused of rationalising, I do not only apply this to children, but have also asked my wife to cut back on swearing.
As a side note, Americans are very loud, both in the literal sense of putting more decibels behind their voices, and in their over-reliance on swearing. I think you’ve fallen into the bad equilibrium that comes about when everyone has an incentive to be a little louder than the next guy, and there’s no cost to being so.
Thank you for this. I’ve been wondering reflectively why I’ve been swearing more frequently lately, and I just realized that it’s to make sure my voice is heard. I’ll try to attack the root of this and instead get my attention-validation from having good things to say rather than saying them most crassly.