Fight fear feels different than flight fear with feels different then freeze fear.
Could you elaborate as to how these differ except obviously for the reaction they cause?
How do you do when it comes to feeling positive emotions? Do you have them in your life?
I feel a lot of happiness resulting from interaction with my children, their actions or just from observicing them be. This reminds me of a negative emotion that is triggered by my children too: Anger when they hurt or are cruel to each other. That causes a dissonance I can’t resolve easily and sometimes hinders efficient action.
I enjoy some sports and physical entertainment.
I take calm delight from the merry parties at my home.
I am happy when a project or plan is a success. And if not even small successes come in for a longer time I can get slightly depressed (out of which I usually get quickly by phone calls with supportive relatives).
My dominant emotion if you can call it that is flow. The immersion into a subject. It is not happyness nor satisfaction (these may come afterwards). It is a feeling of agency. I fall easily into flow if a subject engages me and there are many. I’d call flow a positive emotion.
In very difficult situations (personally, socially, involving others) where after exhausting all my actions and all my reasons the situation still looks bleak I feel desperation and tearfulness. It happens seldom and in all the few cases except one it led to support by others so I see this as an adaptive emotion the actually did help me despite it feeling—well—bad. To illustrate it I once was resonsible for a larger group of children that failed to respond positively to all my positively intended actions and nothing I did helped against the unrest and meanness among them. Finally after some days (we were a group of caregivers) I broke down and cried and was relieved and comforted by others of our team.
Reconsidering all this it looks as if emotions result from situation I can’t control. As I control most situations very well by a) avoiding trouble, b) long-term planning, c) training, it may just be that I just don’t get into emotional situations sufficient often to learn to feel and deal with them.
ADDED: I notice that I’m revealing lots of personal detail which may appear strange. I feel no risk from that (thus no fear). I do not expect reciprocation.
For most heterosexual dudes there a fear that can be triggered. but it might very well not be the case for you.
Fight fear feels different than flight fear with feels different then freeze fear.
How do you do when it comes to feeling positive emotions? Do you have them in your life?
Could you elaborate as to how these differ except obviously for the reaction they cause?
I feel a lot of happiness resulting from interaction with my children, their actions or just from observicing them be. This reminds me of a negative emotion that is triggered by my children too: Anger when they hurt or are cruel to each other. That causes a dissonance I can’t resolve easily and sometimes hinders efficient action.
I enjoy some sports and physical entertainment.
I take calm delight from the merry parties at my home.
I am happy when a project or plan is a success. And if not even small successes come in for a longer time I can get slightly depressed (out of which I usually get quickly by phone calls with supportive relatives).
My dominant emotion if you can call it that is flow. The immersion into a subject. It is not happyness nor satisfaction (these may come afterwards). It is a feeling of agency. I fall easily into flow if a subject engages me and there are many. I’d call flow a positive emotion.
In very difficult situations (personally, socially, involving others) where after exhausting all my actions and all my reasons the situation still looks bleak I feel desperation and tearfulness. It happens seldom and in all the few cases except one it led to support by others so I see this as an adaptive emotion the actually did help me despite it feeling—well—bad. To illustrate it I once was resonsible for a larger group of children that failed to respond positively to all my positively intended actions and nothing I did helped against the unrest and meanness among them. Finally after some days (we were a group of caregivers) I broke down and cried and was relieved and comforted by others of our team.
Reconsidering all this it looks as if emotions result from situation I can’t control. As I control most situations very well by a) avoiding trouble, b) long-term planning, c) training, it may just be that I just don’t get into emotional situations sufficient often to learn to feel and deal with them.
ADDED: I notice that I’m revealing lots of personal detail which may appear strange. I feel no risk from that (thus no fear). I do not expect reciprocation.
That sounds all healthy. I’m not sure if it’s worth focusing your energies in changing something about this issue.
Training automatic responses to a few crisis situations might still be valuable.
Thank you for your external view. I got the same impression. I’m somewhat unusual—but who isn’t in some aspect.