Furthermore, I must show this in a way that wouldn’t normally cause you distress. (This caveat is to rule out things like “tough love”, or stalkers who think that their attention makes their stalkees happy.)
Those are instances of caring about other things (most likely either how much utility the person will have in the future or social norms in the first case, the stalker’s (delusional) idea of how the future will be in the second case) more than the target’s happiness. I’m sure that we also want to have certain things (like truth and accuracy) valued above individuals’ happiness here. We may want to discuss those as part of discussing what the norm should be here.
Those are instances of caring about other things (most likely either how much utility the person will have in the future or social norms in the first case, the stalker’s (delusional) idea of how the future will be in the second case) more than the target’s happiness. I’m sure that we also want to have certain things (like truth and accuracy) valued above individuals’ happiness here. We may want to discuss those as part of discussing what the norm should be here.