It’s possible that this is a disagreement on the meaning of “effortful niceness”. As I’ve said, I find that it is often more effort to express a point straightforwardly than to express it meanly, because I’m forced to think through the argument more carefully. I’m guessing that doesn’t fall under the banner of “effortful niceness” for you, even though it involves effort and makes the comment nicer? Could you give an example of counterproductive effortful niceness?
It’s possible that this is a disagreement on the meaning of “effortful niceness”. As I’ve said, I find that it is often more effort to express a point straightforwardly than to express it meanly, because I’m forced to think through the argument more carefully. I’m guessing that doesn’t fall under the banner of “effortful niceness” for you, even though it involves effort and makes the comment nicer? Could you give an example of counterproductive effortful niceness?
Yeah, I guess you’re right actually. After all, it is more effort to express a point straightforwardly than to express it meanly.