I think I have a similar problem. I sometimes just fake the signal. Partly I worry that my insincerity shows, but I also suspect that guilt/shame displays are just becoming devalued in general.
My best solution is to display a (genuine) determination to do better in the future—in fact, I’ve basically made that my personal definition of an apology. The only trouble is that I can’t do this when I don’t actually feel I’ve acted wrongly, which is especially a problem insofar as guilt for things that aren’t your fault is sometimes expected. c.f. some theories about survivors’ guilt.
I think I have a similar problem. I sometimes just fake the signal. Partly I worry that my insincerity shows, but I also suspect that guilt/shame displays are just becoming devalued in general.
My best solution is to display a (genuine) determination to do better in the future—in fact, I’ve basically made that my personal definition of an apology. The only trouble is that I can’t do this when I don’t actually feel I’ve acted wrongly, which is especially a problem insofar as guilt for things that aren’t your fault is sometimes expected. c.f. some theories about survivors’ guilt.