I find it funny that without data, I could easily argue either way.
Arranged marriages cannot work, because other people including your family members don’t understand you and your priorities perfectly. They will likely look for a person they would want to live with, not a person you would want to live with; in the best case they will look for a person who fits their idea of you, which is still not the same as you.
Western marriages cannot work, because we have this meme of “true love” as something completely beyond our control, so when any problem comes, instead of “I should pay more attention to my relationship” people are more likely to go “this means it is not the true love; I quickly need to divorce / break up, and go seeking my real true love”. You may verbally oppose this meme, but it is in most of stories you read and movies you saw, so it likely drives your expectations anyway. Also, it takes two to tango, so even if you succeed to overcome the cultural programming, unless your partner does the same thing, your relationship will fail anyway.
But there are probably also people in India who take relationships passively, something like “if our parents arranged this, it must be okay; no need for me to do the extra work”.
Actually, feeling too much personal responsibility for your relationship may also be bad. It may mean that you enter a relationship or stay in a relationship with a wrong person despite obvious red flags, because you feel like it is your job to make it work anyway.
I find it funny that without data, I could easily argue either way.
Arranged marriages cannot work, because other people including your family members don’t understand you and your priorities perfectly. They will likely look for a person they would want to live with, not a person you would want to live with; in the best case they will look for a person who fits their idea of you, which is still not the same as you.
Western marriages cannot work, because we have this meme of “true love” as something completely beyond our control, so when any problem comes, instead of “I should pay more attention to my relationship” people are more likely to go “this means it is not the true love; I quickly need to divorce / break up, and go seeking my real true love”. You may verbally oppose this meme, but it is in most of stories you read and movies you saw, so it likely drives your expectations anyway. Also, it takes two to tango, so even if you succeed to overcome the cultural programming, unless your partner does the same thing, your relationship will fail anyway.
But there are probably also people in India who take relationships passively, something like “if our parents arranged this, it must be okay; no need for me to do the extra work”.
Actually, feeling too much personal responsibility for your relationship may also be bad. It may mean that you enter a relationship or stay in a relationship with a wrong person despite obvious red flags, because you feel like it is your job to make it work anyway.