I’m definitely an asker, and this—as I see now in retrospect thanks to this post—caused me a lot of grief with a friend with whom I was otherwise closely mentally aligned. She insisted on “reading” people and playing “guess my intent”, often accusing me of things that I never even thought of, and complaining that I was difficult to read. When I asked her why she couldn’t just ask me about my thoughts instead of trying to infer them, she said it was not culturally common in her country (Holland). I have no way of verifying that last assertion, though.
I’m definitely an asker, and this—as I see now in retrospect thanks to this post—caused me a lot of grief with a friend with whom I was otherwise closely mentally aligned. She insisted on “reading” people and playing “guess my intent”, often accusing me of things that I never even thought of, and complaining that I was difficult to read. When I asked her why she couldn’t just ask me about my thoughts instead of trying to infer them, she said it was not culturally common in her country (Holland). I have no way of verifying that last assertion, though.