So you’re suggesting one should always use ask culture in response to questions, but being careful about which culture you use when asking questions?
That sounds like a decent strategy overall. However, from the descriptions people have been giving it seems to me that you aren’t supposed to refuse requests in guess culture (that’s why it’s offensive to make a request someone doesn’t want to agree to).
Now, I’m probably both biased personally against guess culture and being influenced by other people who are more on the ask side describing it here, but it seems to me that guess culture is sustained solely by forcing all participants to participate in all phases. Rather like the hypothetical society where one rule is that everyone has to cooperate to kill anyone who breaks a rule, including this one. As far as I can tell the only way to contribute to breaking it would be to either think carefully about which one you’re in at all times, or explain the concept to everyone who you interact with so you can ask them about it.
So you’re suggesting one should always use ask culture in response to questions, but being careful about which culture you use when asking questions? That sounds like a decent strategy overall. However, from the descriptions people have been giving it seems to me that you aren’t supposed to refuse requests in guess culture (that’s why it’s offensive to make a request someone doesn’t want to agree to).
Now, I’m probably both biased personally against guess culture and being influenced by other people who are more on the ask side describing it here, but it seems to me that guess culture is sustained solely by forcing all participants to participate in all phases. Rather like the hypothetical society where one rule is that everyone has to cooperate to kill anyone who breaks a rule, including this one. As far as I can tell the only way to contribute to breaking it would be to either think carefully about which one you’re in at all times, or explain the concept to everyone who you interact with so you can ask them about it.