I really started to do active listening. On the earlier times I tried to improve my listening it didn’t really take off (after reading von Thun and Rosenberg). Now after reading Olivia Fox Cabanes The Charisma Myth I do make probably. Probably due a combination of insights, good examples and a chance to practice.
Obtained new evidence that made you change your mind about some belief
Consciously changed your emotions or affect with respect to something
After my wife and I split up I still clung to some joint events with her and the children (brithdays...) which she wanted to separate further. During a family therapy session this I became clearly aware of this which increased my feelings of loss but also allowed to find a satisfactory solution. My fear was that the separation would increase unbounded at the cost for the children and at a loss of control on my side. But the fear was unfounded.
Consciously pursued new valuable information about something that could make a big difference in your life
Read Athol Kay’s MAP and half through The Charisma Myth. The first could have made a difference earlier (but will likely do the next time.
The second shows results already.
Tried doing any of the above and failed
I strongly consider taking some risk where I may fail. I’m strongly risk-averse and would normally go down the easier path. But this job opportunity has clear chances and the risks aren’t that bad after all.
I really started to do active listening. On the earlier times I tried to improve my listening it didn’t really take off (after reading von Thun and Rosenberg). Now after reading Olivia Fox Cabanes The Charisma Myth I do make probably. Probably due a combination of insights, good examples and a chance to practice.
Due to the very promising new LW thread I updated my belief on a small point.
After my wife and I split up I still clung to some joint events with her and the children (brithdays...) which she wanted to separate further. During a family therapy session this I became clearly aware of this which increased my feelings of loss but also allowed to find a satisfactory solution. My fear was that the separation would increase unbounded at the cost for the children and at a loss of control on my side. But the fear was unfounded.
Read Athol Kay’s MAP and half through The Charisma Myth. The first could have made a difference earlier (but will likely do the next time. The second shows results already.
I strongly consider taking some risk where I may fail. I’m strongly risk-averse and would normally go down the easier path. But this job opportunity has clear chances and the risks aren’t that bad after all.