I could have made more friends at college but I made a decision I somewhat regret now: took only classes where I could just do them online instead of having to go live. The first semester or two where I was showing up in person, did have some luck making friends. Because of the virus, there aren’t many (if any) events being held at uni I can attend to meet people so I’d basically have to wait for next semester I think.
I also sort of suffer from the issue that I kind of want friends that are interesting. I don’t hate just hanging out with people but at some level if it feels empty of value it eats at me. This is part of why I’m interested in going to the US: seems like it’d be easier to find rationalists/interesting people to hang out with rather than limited subset of english speakers around.
In a more general vein, what are your plans for the future? You list many important considerations for your present situation, but without much focus on how they’ll affect you later.
I’m interested in something amongst: (helping people do) effective learning, UI/UX design, entrepreneurship, working on cool projects. I don’t really think any of these benefit at all from being in Japan now that I think about it, I have only 1 friend that somewhat overlaps with these interests. Looking back, when I lived in Korea and had friends that had similar-ish productivity interests I did find the environment really valuable.
The main cost is then having to re-apply to university and either having to actually go through with it or finding some alternative to live off of before having to actually enter again. This is what sort of scares me, am really not big on uni, have plenty of other things I’d want to spend my time on.
I could have made more friends at college but I made a decision I somewhat regret now: took only classes where I could just do them online instead of having to go live. The first semester or two where I was showing up in person, did have some luck making friends. Because of the virus, there aren’t many (if any) events being held at uni I can attend to meet people so I’d basically have to wait for next semester I think.
I also sort of suffer from the issue that I kind of want friends that are interesting. I don’t hate just hanging out with people but at some level if it feels empty of value it eats at me. This is part of why I’m interested in going to the US: seems like it’d be easier to find rationalists/interesting people to hang out with rather than limited subset of english speakers around.
I’m interested in something amongst: (helping people do) effective learning, UI/UX design, entrepreneurship, working on cool projects. I don’t really think any of these benefit at all from being in Japan now that I think about it, I have only 1 friend that somewhat overlaps with these interests. Looking back, when I lived in Korea and had friends that had similar-ish productivity interests I did find the environment really valuable.
The main cost is then having to re-apply to university and either having to actually go through with it or finding some alternative to live off of before having to actually enter again. This is what sort of scares me, am really not big on uni, have plenty of other things I’d want to spend my time on.