Oh, definitely, partner selection is not about finding “the one”. I do have to say, though, that Dan Savage’s outlook is much more “settley” than mine. I also think the .67 is way low, and I can’t relate to what he says about “relationships built on lies” in that video.
Since you bring it up, my parents have a terrible marriage (though they are still together) and my husband’s parents are divorced. His brother also divorced shortly after marrying. My brother had a shotgun wedding and then came close to divorce, but his marriage seems to be ok for now.
FWIW, our siblings’ success/failure ratio is 3⁄4 - I have one sibling who is having a little trouble. He was in an otherwise good relationship, but they had mismatched long-term goals, and couldn’t find a compromise. There’s a lot of variables that have to come together, and I think that’s where luck comes in...
Oh, definitely, partner selection is not about finding “the one”. I do have to say, though, that Dan Savage’s outlook is much more “settley” than mine. I also think the .67 is way low, and I can’t relate to what he says about “relationships built on lies” in that video.
Since you bring it up, my parents have a terrible marriage (though they are still together) and my husband’s parents are divorced. His brother also divorced shortly after marrying. My brother had a shotgun wedding and then came close to divorce, but his marriage seems to be ok for now.
Ya, “lies and deceit” seem a bit hyperbolic.
FWIW, our siblings’ success/failure ratio is 3⁄4 - I have one sibling who is having a little trouble. He was in an otherwise good relationship, but they had mismatched long-term goals, and couldn’t find a compromise. There’s a lot of variables that have to come together, and I think that’s where luck comes in...