That is a good point. I generally feel very powerless when it comes to figuring out what other people want and providing it. Maybe I should make this more of a focus.
In my experience figuring out what other people want get’s easier if you have a bit of mental distance and can take the far view.
If you are focused on what you can do to achieve a certain objective in the next 5 minutes, it’s hard to see deeper goals of other people.
Even if you ask them few people will give you their deepest motivations Someone who’s lonely and who core motivation comes from the search for companionship won’t admit it as doing so would make him emotionally vulnerable.
If you are all the time worried what first impression you make and how the other person judges you, it’s also unlikely that you will understand them on that level.
It can be much more about relaxing and listen to the other person than about trying to do something.
That is a good point. I generally feel very powerless when it comes to figuring out what other people want and providing it. Maybe I should make this more of a focus.
In my experience figuring out what other people want get’s easier if you have a bit of mental distance and can take the far view. If you are focused on what you can do to achieve a certain objective in the next 5 minutes, it’s hard to see deeper goals of other people.
Even if you ask them few people will give you their deepest motivations Someone who’s lonely and who core motivation comes from the search for companionship won’t admit it as doing so would make him emotionally vulnerable.
If you are all the time worried what first impression you make and how the other person judges you, it’s also unlikely that you will understand them on that level.
It can be much more about relaxing and listen to the other person than about trying to do something.