It looks like you and your friends have rediscovered Lebniz’s monadology. Leibniz believed that only minds were real, matter as distinct from minds is an illusion, and minds do not interact causally, but they seem to share a same “reality” by virtue of a “pre-established harmony” between their non-causally related experiences. This last part can perhaps be reexpressed in modern terms as acausal communication.
It looks like you and your friends have rediscovered Lebniz’s monadology. Leibniz believed that only minds were real, matter as distinct from minds is an illusion, and minds do not interact causally, but they seem to share a same “reality” by virtue of a “pre-established harmony” between their non-causally related experiences. This last part can perhaps be reexpressed in modern terms as acausal communication.