I’m having difficulty understanding how you can NOT say that her morality is wrong.
I think the terms “acceptable” and “not acceptable” are much better here than right and wrong.
If the positions were reversed, I might find Alice’s morality unacceptable to me, but I still wouldn’t call it wrong.
I’m not sure why you’re calling different values “Different sides” as though they are separate agents.
No, I’m not talking about different values here. Having different conflicting values is entirely normal and commonplace. I am here implicitly accepting the multi-agent theory of mind and saying that a part of Bob’s (let’s call the guy Bob) personality would like to change his values. It might even be a dominant part of Bob’s conscious personality, but it still is having difficulty controlling his drive to win.
Or let’s take a different example, with social pressure. Ali Ababwa emigrated from Backwardistan to the United States. His original morality was that women are… let’s say inferior. However Ali went to school in the US, got educated and somewhat assimilated. He understands—consciously—that his attitude towards women is neither adequate nor appropriate and moreover, his job made it clear to him that he ain’t in Backwardistan any more and noticeable sexism will get him fired. And yet his morals do not change just because he would prefer them to change. Maybe they will, eventually, but it will take time.
I think the terms “acceptable” and “not acceptable” are much better here than right and wrong.
If the positions were reversed, I might find Alice’s morality unacceptable to me, but I still wouldn’t call it wrong.
No, I’m not talking about different values here. Having different conflicting values is entirely normal and commonplace. I am here implicitly accepting the multi-agent theory of mind and saying that a part of Bob’s (let’s call the guy Bob) personality would like to change his values. It might even be a dominant part of Bob’s conscious personality, but it still is having difficulty controlling his drive to win.
Or let’s take a different example, with social pressure. Ali Ababwa emigrated from Backwardistan to the United States. His original morality was that women are… let’s say inferior. However Ali went to school in the US, got educated and somewhat assimilated. He understands—consciously—that his attitude towards women is neither adequate nor appropriate and moreover, his job made it clear to him that he ain’t in Backwardistan any more and noticeable sexism will get him fired. And yet his morals do not change just because he would prefer them to change. Maybe they will, eventually, but it will take time.
Sure, but do you accept that other people have?