This seems like about the best one can do for shared spaces that don’t require nonconsensual hitting to function. If people like Duncan want to delineate spaces for modes of coordination that do require this, then it’s not obvious that we should do much more than try to make sure people have a viable way to exit those spaces if they want to—as long as the space is clearly delineated, it’s not threatening to outsiders the way forming a military barracks might be.
In practice it seems difficult to guarantee adherence to BDSM norms for some groups such as small children, since many of them seem to have a strong drive to hit each other nonconsensually from time to time.
This seems like about the best one can do for shared spaces that don’t require nonconsensual hitting to function. If people like Duncan want to delineate spaces for modes of coordination that do require this, then it’s not obvious that we should do much more than try to make sure people have a viable way to exit those spaces if they want to—as long as the space is clearly delineated, it’s not threatening to outsiders the way forming a military barracks might be.
In practice it seems difficult to guarantee adherence to BDSM norms for some groups such as small children, since many of them seem to have a strong drive to hit each other nonconsensually from time to time.