It sounds like I endorse this Hufflepuff cynicism myself. If honesty does not contradict HC then I don’t see why HC should cause you to lie to yourself. And I don’t think HC implies becoming complicit: I see it more as looking for opportunities to nudge things in the right direction. I also don’t necessarily agree with the rule of correcting exactly once. You might correct any number of times if you think hard enough about the form in which you deliver your criticism and improve over time. I certainly have to correct my son many times before ey learn anything, lol.
Regarding the notion that “you should sometimes be unwilling to compromize even when your words will not be received in a way which will increase the accuracy of the other person’s beliefs,” I think that precisely because your goal is increasing the accuracy of the other person’s beliefs, you should not always be blunt about it. In order to change someone’s beliefs you need to find a way which will cause em to listen.
If honesty does not contradict HC then I don’t see why HC should cause you to lie to yourself.
I agree in principle, but in practice, I am concerned. Dancing around taboo topics in your speech makes it easy to dance around them in your head, too.
And I don’t think HC implies becoming complicit: I see it more as looking for opportunities to nudge things in the right direction.
Again, I agree in principle, but am concerned in practice. Sometimes, nudging isn’t enough. HC can look an awful lot like cowardice / risk aversion.
I also don’t necessarily agree with the rule of correcting exactly once.
Perhaps this is more of a bug in my implementation of HC. :)
Regarding the notion that “you should sometimes be unwilling to compromize even when your words will not be received in a way which will increase the accuracy of the other person’s beliefs,”
It’s somewhat difficult for me to play the anti-HC side, but I suspect it would be something about “sometimes the accuracy of their beliefs isn’t all that’s at stake”.
Thank you Abram, that helps.
It sounds like I endorse this Hufflepuff cynicism myself. If honesty does not contradict HC then I don’t see why HC should cause you to lie to yourself. And I don’t think HC implies becoming complicit: I see it more as looking for opportunities to nudge things in the right direction. I also don’t necessarily agree with the rule of correcting exactly once. You might correct any number of times if you think hard enough about the form in which you deliver your criticism and improve over time. I certainly have to correct my son many times before ey learn anything, lol.
Regarding the notion that “you should sometimes be unwilling to compromize even when your words will not be received in a way which will increase the accuracy of the other person’s beliefs,” I think that precisely because your goal is increasing the accuracy of the other person’s beliefs, you should not always be blunt about it. In order to change someone’s beliefs you need to find a way which will cause em to listen.
I agree in principle, but in practice, I am concerned. Dancing around taboo topics in your speech makes it easy to dance around them in your head, too.
Again, I agree in principle, but am concerned in practice. Sometimes, nudging isn’t enough. HC can look an awful lot like cowardice / risk aversion.
Perhaps this is more of a bug in my implementation of HC. :)
It’s somewhat difficult for me to play the anti-HC side, but I suspect it would be something about “sometimes the accuracy of their beliefs isn’t all that’s at stake”.