There is an “insufficient” mindset that’s my biggest obstacle.
Like, insufficiently smart to ask questions, insufficiently creative to contribute, insufficiently good tango dancer, etc.
Work by Brene Brown on vulnerability has helped me a lot with this.
The identity that helps me most is: I’m a fifth order of consciousness in the making (I just levelled up to 4). :)
You seem to have a not-good-enough meta-identity. A problem with this one is that even when you generate counterexamples, it can declare the counterexamples not to be good enough. E.g. “sure, I learned a new tango move today, but I could have done it faster!”. How does the “fifth order of consciousness” approach work?
Yeah, the Insufficient mindset is a very limiting identity. The tango experience was more like… “X months have passed and I’m still not able to compose a dance with the moves I know” morphing into “I can compose but it’s too linear” morphing into “I can compose but I have a lot of decision points” morphing into “to hell with good enough. what is important is to have fun” and ending up with me dancing in a tango flash mob in a subway station. :)
How does the “fifth order of consciousness” approach work?
Everyone needs a philosophy of life, a way of being into this world. Mine is one inspired by the way Tolstoy interpreted the teachings of Jesus. In short, morality is redefined as the continuous movement towards an ideal of perfection with the full understanding that you will never be able to reach it. My perfection ideal is the ideal of the Jedi. It has 3 components: emotional regulation (Emotions, yet Peace), rationality (Ignorance, yet Understanding) and noosphere contribution (Death, yet The Force). The Kegan’s 5 order of consciousness mind involves all three and it is thus perceived as a valid guideline for my journey. The main advantage being the fact that there is a progression (there are signposts available, e.g. 4th order consciousness).
There is an “insufficient” mindset that’s my biggest obstacle. Like, insufficiently smart to ask questions, insufficiently creative to contribute, insufficiently good tango dancer, etc. Work by Brene Brown on vulnerability has helped me a lot with this.
The identity that helps me most is: I’m a fifth order of consciousness in the making (I just levelled up to 4). :)
You seem to have a not-good-enough meta-identity. A problem with this one is that even when you generate counterexamples, it can declare the counterexamples not to be good enough. E.g. “sure, I learned a new tango move today, but I could have done it faster!”. How does the “fifth order of consciousness” approach work?
Yeah, the Insufficient mindset is a very limiting identity. The tango experience was more like… “X months have passed and I’m still not able to compose a dance with the moves I know” morphing into “I can compose but it’s too linear” morphing into “I can compose but I have a lot of decision points” morphing into “to hell with good enough. what is important is to have fun” and ending up with me dancing in a tango flash mob in a subway station. :)
Everyone needs a philosophy of life, a way of being into this world. Mine is one inspired by the way Tolstoy interpreted the teachings of Jesus. In short, morality is redefined as the continuous movement towards an ideal of perfection with the full understanding that you will never be able to reach it. My perfection ideal is the ideal of the Jedi. It has 3 components: emotional regulation (Emotions, yet Peace), rationality (Ignorance, yet Understanding) and noosphere contribution (Death, yet The Force). The Kegan’s 5 order of consciousness mind involves all three and it is thus perceived as a valid guideline for my journey. The main advantage being the fact that there is a progression (there are signposts available, e.g. 4th order consciousness).