There’s a point here about how fucked things are that I do not know how to convey without saying those things, definitely not briefly or easily. I’ve spent, oh, a fair number of years, being politer than this, and less personal than this, and the end result is that people nod along and go on living their lives.
I expect this won’t work either, but at some point you start trying different things instead of the things that have already failed. It’s more dignified if you fail in different ways instead of the same way.
Do whatever you want, obviously, but I just want to clarify that I did not suggest you avoid personally criticising people (only that you avoid vague/hard to interpret criticism) or saying you think doom is overwhelmingly likely. Some other comments give me a stronger impression than yours that I was asking you in a general sense to be nice, but I’m saying it to you because I figure it mostly matters that you’re clear on this.
There’s a point here about how fucked things are that I do not know how to convey without saying those things, definitely not briefly or easily. I’ve spent, oh, a fair number of years, being politer than this, and less personal than this, and the end result is that people nod along and go on living their lives.
I expect this won’t work either, but at some point you start trying different things instead of the things that have already failed. It’s more dignified if you fail in different ways instead of the same way.
FWIW you taking off the Mr. Nice guy gloves has actually made me make different life decisions. I’m glad you tried it even if it doesn’t work.
Do whatever you want, obviously, but I just want to clarify that I did not suggest you avoid personally criticising people (only that you avoid vague/hard to interpret criticism) or saying you think doom is overwhelmingly likely. Some other comments give me a stronger impression than yours that I was asking you in a general sense to be nice, but I’m saying it to you because I figure it mostly matters that you’re clear on this.
You might not have this ability, but surely you know at least one person who does?