Also, I specifically want to say: Thank you for writing this post, even though it’s very vulnerable and suggests that both you and your housemates were wrong about a really important thing. Please accept this gift of hedons and social status in exchange.
This is an important conversation for all of us to have.
Also on the retrospective conversation. “Truth and reconciliation” feels like a useful framing, if a bit dramatic (it’s more commonly used in the aftermath of war or genocide).
i.e. we want to understand what we did, and how we could have acted better. But we also need to work out how to (re-)build relations with each other and the wider world, when lots of people have behaved selfishly, or suboptimally, or harmfully.
Also, I specifically want to say: Thank you for writing this post, even though it’s very vulnerable and suggests that both you and your housemates were wrong about a really important thing. Please accept this gift of hedons and social status in exchange.
This is an important conversation for all of us to have.
Absolutely this. Thank you mingyuan!
Also on the retrospective conversation. “Truth and reconciliation” feels like a useful framing, if a bit dramatic (it’s more commonly used in the aftermath of war or genocide).
i.e. we want to understand what we did, and how we could have acted better. But we also need to work out how to (re-)build relations with each other and the wider world, when lots of people have behaved selfishly, or suboptimally, or harmfully.