“We can get very confused, because we think that words must have some secret meaning that we have to figure out. They don’t. They are just noises or marks, and they mean whatever experience you have learned to mean by them. People tend to use similar words in similar situations, but unless you have specifically agreed on what the words will mean, in terms of underlying experiences, there’s no way to know what another person understands when you use them. The experience you attach to a word when you say it isn’t automatically the same as the experience another person attaches to the same word when hearing it.”
“We can get very confused, because we think that words must have some secret meaning that we have to figure out. They don’t. They are just noises or marks, and they mean whatever experience you have learned to mean by them. People tend to use similar words in similar situations, but unless you have specifically agreed on what the words will mean, in terms of underlying experiences, there’s no way to know what another person understands when you use them. The experience you attach to a word when you say it isn’t automatically the same as the experience another person attaches to the same word when hearing it.”
William T. Powers
I find this (the unspoken and un-agreed-upon array of connotations behind a word) is a major source of disagreement even on this site.