In this particular case, I think the use of “should” is more an implicit dismissal than a semantic stopsign (but there may be an overlap between the two concepts). What I mean is that it’s usually clear to both the participants of the conversation that you have acknowledged the problem but do not intend to implement a solution yet. More explicitely, the meaning of the phrase sounds like: “I know that I should eat less chocolate, but this is not a priority for me now.”. It stops the conversation by stating your full position regarding the subjet, even if not explicitely.
Back on the main topic, one of the most powerful semantic stopsigns is probably “It’s complicated”. It’s so powerful that even PUAs encourage to exploit it as a relationship weapon. I’m guilty of using it myself very often, even though I hate to hear those words uttered to me.
I’m torn on “it’s complicated.” Clearly, you’re correct that it can function as a powerful semantic stopsign. But increasingly, I also find that it’s actually an entirely appropriate and even useful response (or at least an initial response) to many questions, especially political/policy/legal/normative questions.
For example, imagine a poll asking American citizens the following question: “In one sentence, what would you say is the major problem with the American health care system?” Now imagine the people who respond with something like “It’s complicated,” and ask yourself whether these individuals might ultimately have something interesting and productive to say about health care (compared to the average responder).
In this particular case, I think the use of “should” is more an implicit dismissal than a semantic stopsign (but there may be an overlap between the two concepts). What I mean is that it’s usually clear to both the participants of the conversation that you have acknowledged the problem but do not intend to implement a solution yet. More explicitely, the meaning of the phrase sounds like: “I know that I should eat less chocolate, but this is not a priority for me now.”. It stops the conversation by stating your full position regarding the subjet, even if not explicitely.
Back on the main topic, one of the most powerful semantic stopsigns is probably “It’s complicated”. It’s so powerful that even PUAs encourage to exploit it as a relationship weapon. I’m guilty of using it myself very often, even though I hate to hear those words uttered to me.
I’m torn on “it’s complicated.” Clearly, you’re correct that it can function as a powerful semantic stopsign. But increasingly, I also find that it’s actually an entirely appropriate and even useful response (or at least an initial response) to many questions, especially political/policy/legal/normative questions.
For example, imagine a poll asking American citizens the following question: “In one sentence, what would you say is the major problem with the American health care system?” Now imagine the people who respond with something like “It’s complicated,” and ask yourself whether these individuals might ultimately have something interesting and productive to say about health care (compared to the average responder).
Very good point. I think I am somewhat confusing the two different concepts in my mind.
“It’s complicated” is a great example!