There’s a category of good thing that can only be reached with some amount of risk, and that are hard to get out once you start. All of romance risks getting your heart broken. You never have enough information to know a job will always and forever be amazing for you. Will anti-depressants give you your life back or dull your affect in hard to detect ways?
This is hard enough when the situation is merely high variance with incomplete information. But often the situations are adversarial: abusive partners and jobs camouflage themselves. Or the partner/job might start out good and get bad, as their finances change. Or they might be great in general but really bad for you (apparently other people like working for Google? no accounting for taste).
Or they might be genuinely malicious and telling you the issue is temporary, or that their ex wasn’t a good fit or you are.
Or they might not be malicious, it might genuinely be the situation, but the situation isn’t going to get better so it’s damaging you badly.
You could opt out of the risk, but at the cost of missing some important human experiences and/or food.
How do you calculate risks when the math is so obfuscated?
There’s a category of good thing that can only be reached with some amount of risk, and that are hard to get out once you start. All of romance risks getting your heart broken. You never have enough information to know a job will always and forever be amazing for you. Will anti-depressants give you your life back or dull your affect in hard to detect ways?
This is hard enough when the situation is merely high variance with incomplete information. But often the situations are adversarial: abusive partners and jobs camouflage themselves. Or the partner/job might start out good and get bad, as their finances change. Or they might be great in general but really bad for you (apparently other people like working for Google? no accounting for taste).
Or they might be genuinely malicious and telling you the issue is temporary, or that their ex wasn’t a good fit or you are.
Or they might not be malicious, it might genuinely be the situation, but the situation isn’t going to get better so it’s damaging you badly.
You could opt out of the risk, but at the cost of missing some important human experiences and/or food.
How do you calculate risks when the math is so obfuscated?