I’m convinced people are less likely to update when they’ve locked themself into a choice they don’t really want.
If I am excited to go to 6 flags and get a headache that will ruin the rollercoasters for me, I change my plans. But if I’m going out of FOMO or to make my someone else happy and I get a headache it doesn’t trigger an update to my plans. The utilitarian math on this could check out, but my claim is that’s not necessary, once I lock myself in I stop paying attention to pain signals and can’t tell if I should leave or not.
I think “locked themself into a choice” is unhelpful, and perhaps obfuscatory. There are lots of different lock-in mechanics, and they are incredibly unequal. I also don’t see this as a failure to update, but just a different weighting of costs and benefits. though there’s ALSO a failure to update, in that I tend to lie to myself if I don’t want to question a decision.
Depending on the group and the frequency of contact, it’s quite likely that the relationship impact will be an order of magnitude larger than the actual hedonic content of the outing. In this case, you’d absolutely be willing to suffer some in order to maintain plans.
That said, I cannot explain how it is that I forget the existence of analgesics so regularly.
I’m convinced people are less likely to update when they’ve locked themself into a choice they don’t really want.
If I am excited to go to 6 flags and get a headache that will ruin the rollercoasters for me, I change my plans. But if I’m going out of FOMO or to make my someone else happy and I get a headache it doesn’t trigger an update to my plans. The utilitarian math on this could check out, but my claim is that’s not necessary, once I lock myself in I stop paying attention to pain signals and can’t tell if I should leave or not.
I think “locked themself into a choice” is unhelpful, and perhaps obfuscatory. There are lots of different lock-in mechanics, and they are incredibly unequal. I also don’t see this as a failure to update, but just a different weighting of costs and benefits. though there’s ALSO a failure to update, in that I tend to lie to myself if I don’t want to question a decision.
Depending on the group and the frequency of contact, it’s quite likely that the relationship impact will be an order of magnitude larger than the actual hedonic content of the outing. In this case, you’d absolutely be willing to suffer some in order to maintain plans.
That said, I cannot explain how it is that I forget the existence of analgesics so regularly.