Yeah, that approach replaces “I want you to be my friend” with “I want you to want to be my friend”. That doesn’t assuage any meta-fears in me.
The way it works for me is to give them an easy way out. “Hey wanna do X on monday? Or are you still too busy with Y? In that case we’ll just do X another time, when it’s more convenient for you.”
Then they can pick up the excuse I provided for them and if they really want to do X someday they now know that I’m interested. And of course the ball is in their court if they do say no. I certainly wont bother them again.
Yeah, that approach replaces “I want you to be my friend” with “I want you to want to be my friend”. That doesn’t assuage any meta-fears in me.
The way it works for me is to give them an easy way out. “Hey wanna do X on monday? Or are you still too busy with Y? In that case we’ll just do X another time, when it’s more convenient for you.”
Then they can pick up the excuse I provided for them and if they really want to do X someday they now know that I’m interested. And of course the ball is in their court if they do say no. I certainly wont bother them again.