Gladly. In retrospect, my comment was obnoxious even if it had been right. In the future I’ll try to realize this without being wrong first.
edit: Out of curiousity, why do you usually not vote in threads you’re participating in?
why do you usually not vote in threads you’re participating in?
If I am already talking to people, I can explain my likes and dislikes in words—without using the crude tool of votes. For me comments and votes are two alternate ways of expressing my attitude, it is rare that I want to use both.
Besides, it feels more “proper”, in the vaguely ethical way, to not up- or down-vote people with whom I am conversing. Not that I think it should be a universal rule, that’s just a quirk of mine.
Besides, it feels more “proper”, in the vaguely ethical way, to not up- or down-vote people with whom I am conversing. Not that I think it should be a universal rule, that’s just a quirk of mine.
I have no qualms against upvoting people that I’m responding to or who have responded to me, but I have a much higher threshold for downvoting responses to my comments and posts, both to try to compensate for the human tendency to get defensive and to increase the probability the conversation is pleasant.
Agreed with all of this, but the last bit makes me curious… does downvoting someone who is involved in an exchange with a third party decrease the probability that the conversation is pleasant for the two of them?
Well being downvoted, especially when it puts one in the negatives, stirs up bad feelings which might make someone less likely to behave pleasantly in a conversation.
Sigh. I very rarely downvote any comments in the subthreads I participate in. I did not vote, up or down, on any comment in this subthread.
Want to recalibrate your confidence? :-P
Gladly. In retrospect, my comment was obnoxious even if it had been right. In the future I’ll try to realize this without being wrong first. edit: Out of curiousity, why do you usually not vote in threads you’re participating in?
If I am already talking to people, I can explain my likes and dislikes in words—without using the crude tool of votes. For me comments and votes are two alternate ways of expressing my attitude, it is rare that I want to use both.
Besides, it feels more “proper”, in the vaguely ethical way, to not up- or down-vote people with whom I am conversing. Not that I think it should be a universal rule, that’s just a quirk of mine.
I have no qualms against upvoting people that I’m responding to or who have responded to me, but I have a much higher threshold for downvoting responses to my comments and posts, both to try to compensate for the human tendency to get defensive and to increase the probability the conversation is pleasant.
Agreed with all of this, but the last bit makes me curious… does downvoting someone who is involved in an exchange with a third party decrease the probability that the conversation is pleasant for the two of them?
Well being downvoted, especially when it puts one in the negatives, stirs up bad feelings which might make someone less likely to behave pleasantly in a conversation.