Okay let me see if I answered your question right...please let me know so I can.
The other day a seemingly well mother came to terminate her parental rights. She was well dressed, healthy looking, and had an educated background. She terminated her rights and gave the state her infant because she spent the past few years prostitution and using drugs. I validated her by telling she is doing what is best for her baby by allowing the baby to be in a nurturing enivironment (hopefully in good foster home).
New workers had reactions of being agasted at how someone could be so reckless with a child in tow. Whereas the seasoned workers had a sigh of relief that the mother was not going to hire a lawyer and fight the case. There’s a big difference in reactions there.
yes. That’s incredible! I find real life much more interesting than a summary like; “the more I understand people...the more I become numb.”
telling she is doing what is best for her baby by allowing the baby to be in a nurturing environment
When you told her—was it true? Did you have to lie to her to make her comply?
Desensitised in the sense that the actions of the mother no longer made you feel aghast-ed? but you recognise that at the start of the job you were aghast and now it’s like this every day.
I think the same could be said for professions like ambulance officers, who would see many kinds of injuries and at some point injury is just injury. and say; IT support where at some point the dumbness of computer users is just more of the same thing over...
Too many people would be sending PMs I guess. Please post an article. I don’t mind even if it’s off-topic to LW, I will upvote it anyway (and downvoting is disabled). Though you may want to sufficiently anonymize it.
I do not mind PMs at all. I am still getting a feel of the LW community and how things are in terms of posting articles… to be honest I have no clue on how I would post an article featuring people’s accounts. And yes I would leave out details that would allude to a person’s identity for sure.
Can you be more specific about the situation that you experienced this time. Or was that actually a recount?
Okay let me see if I answered your question right...please let me know so I can.
The other day a seemingly well mother came to terminate her parental rights. She was well dressed, healthy looking, and had an educated background. She terminated her rights and gave the state her infant because she spent the past few years prostitution and using drugs. I validated her by telling she is doing what is best for her baby by allowing the baby to be in a nurturing enivironment (hopefully in good foster home).
New workers had reactions of being agasted at how someone could be so reckless with a child in tow. Whereas the seasoned workers had a sigh of relief that the mother was not going to hire a lawyer and fight the case. There’s a big difference in reactions there.
yes. That’s incredible! I find real life much more interesting than a summary like; “the more I understand people...the more I become numb.”
When you told her—was it true? Did you have to lie to her to make her comply?
Desensitised in the sense that the actions of the mother no longer made you feel aghast-ed? but you recognise that at the start of the job you were aghast and now it’s like this every day.
I think the same could be said for professions like ambulance officers, who would see many kinds of injuries and at some point injury is just injury. and say; IT support where at some point the dumbness of computer users is just more of the same thing over...
Thanks. And no I did not lie to her. She had no means or intentions of taking care of a child...foster for the baby was the best option she had.
I do not lie to patients/client. Nor do I give them advice. I offer their options but ultimately it is their decision.
And yes. Social field is very interesting. There are a lot of horror stories out there for sure and inspirational ones too.
If you would ever like to hear more real life commentaries , just send me a PM :)
Too many people would be sending PMs I guess. Please post an article. I don’t mind even if it’s off-topic to LW, I will upvote it anyway (and downvoting is disabled). Though you may want to sufficiently anonymize it.
I do not mind PMs at all. I am still getting a feel of the LW community and how things are in terms of posting articles… to be honest I have no clue on how I would post an article featuring people’s accounts. And yes I would leave out details that would allude to a person’s identity for sure.
Well, another option is to post it as a comment in Open Thread.
Maybe it’s worth writing a book? Or something creative? To take your mind off it?
will PM