I’m glad you got over the initial triggered-ness. I did wonder about being even more explicit that I don’t in fact think you guys are losing your minds, but worried about the “lady doth protest too much” effect.
I wasn’t (in case it isn’t obvious) by any means referring specifically to you, and in particular the “if it keeps happening I’m going to leave” wasn’t intended to be anything like a quotation from you or any specific other person. It was intended to reflect the fact that a number of people (I think at least three) of what I called the Berkeley School have made comments along those general lines—though I think all have taken the line you do here, that the problem is a norm of uncharitable pushback rather than being personally offended. I confess that the uncharitably-pushing-back part of my brain automatically translates that to “I am personally offended but don’t want to admit it”, in the same way as it’s proverbially always correct to translate “it’s not about the money” to “it’s about the money” :-).
(For the avoidance of doubt, I don’t in fact think that auto-translation is fair; I’m explaining how I came to make the error I did, rather than claiming it wasn’t an error.)
[EDITED to replace “explicitly” in the second paragraph with “specifically”, which is what I had actually meant to write; I think my brain was befuddled by the “explicit” in the previous paragraph. Apologies for any confusion.]
I’m glad you got over the initial triggered-ness. I did wonder about being even more explicit that I don’t in fact think you guys are losing your minds, but worried about the “lady doth protest too much” effect.
I wasn’t (in case it isn’t obvious) by any means referring specifically to you, and in particular the “if it keeps happening I’m going to leave” wasn’t intended to be anything like a quotation from you or any specific other person. It was intended to reflect the fact that a number of people (I think at least three) of what I called the Berkeley School have made comments along those general lines—though I think all have taken the line you do here, that the problem is a norm of uncharitable pushback rather than being personally offended. I confess that the uncharitably-pushing-back part of my brain automatically translates that to “I am personally offended but don’t want to admit it”, in the same way as it’s proverbially always correct to translate “it’s not about the money” to “it’s about the money” :-).
(For the avoidance of doubt, I don’t in fact think that auto-translation is fair; I’m explaining how I came to make the error I did, rather than claiming it wasn’t an error.)
[EDITED to replace “explicitly” in the second paragraph with “specifically”, which is what I had actually meant to write; I think my brain was befuddled by the “explicit” in the previous paragraph. Apologies for any confusion.]