Just wondering, what treatments do you have for attachments?
The simplest one is just realizing you don’t need the object of the attachment in order to be happy—to realize you can still get your SASS (Status, Affiliation, Safety & Stimulation) needs met without it.
And, do you think some attachments are healthy?
They’re an emergency response mechanism, so using them to respond to actual emergencies is at least within design parameters. Though honestly, I’m not sure how much good they do in emergencies that don’t reflect the ancestral environment… which is probably most emergencies these days.
For any situation where you have enough time to think about the matter, an attachment is counterproductive… because attachments turn off thinking. (Or at least, induce some rather severe forms of tunnel vision.)
When I first started helping people with chronic procrastination, I focused on removing obstacles to working. After a couple years, I realized that I was doing it backwards; I needed to remove their attachments to getting things done, instead. (Attachments appear to have priority over desire; Increasing desire doesn’t seem to help while the attachments are still there.)
Invariably, the result of getting rid of the attachment(s) is that people suddenly begin thinking clearly about what they’re trying to accomplish, and either immediately see solutions of their own, or realize that the solutions their friends or colleagues have been proposing all along are actually pretty good.
So, attachments are not that useful for a modern human, living in civilization.
The simplest one is just realizing you don’t need the object of the attachment in order to be happy—to realize you can still get your SASS (Status, Affiliation, Safety & Stimulation) needs met without it.
That sounds more like the outcome of a treatment than a treatment by itself.
That sounds more like the outcome of a treatment than a treatment by itself.
Well, “realizing” is usually the result of sincere questioning (e.g. asking, “Do I really need this?”), such that I tend to equate the two a bit in my mind.
If the answer to your sincere question is that you DO need it, though, then you have to untangle whatever SASS-loaded belief(s) are connected to the thing.
Just wondering, what treatments do you have for attachments?
And, do you think some attachments are healthy?
The simplest one is just realizing you don’t need the object of the attachment in order to be happy—to realize you can still get your SASS (Status, Affiliation, Safety & Stimulation) needs met without it.
They’re an emergency response mechanism, so using them to respond to actual emergencies is at least within design parameters. Though honestly, I’m not sure how much good they do in emergencies that don’t reflect the ancestral environment… which is probably most emergencies these days.
For any situation where you have enough time to think about the matter, an attachment is counterproductive… because attachments turn off thinking. (Or at least, induce some rather severe forms of tunnel vision.)
When I first started helping people with chronic procrastination, I focused on removing obstacles to working. After a couple years, I realized that I was doing it backwards; I needed to remove their attachments to getting things done, instead. (Attachments appear to have priority over desire; Increasing desire doesn’t seem to help while the attachments are still there.)
Invariably, the result of getting rid of the attachment(s) is that people suddenly begin thinking clearly about what they’re trying to accomplish, and either immediately see solutions of their own, or realize that the solutions their friends or colleagues have been proposing all along are actually pretty good.
So, attachments are not that useful for a modern human, living in civilization.
That sounds more like the outcome of a treatment than a treatment by itself.
Well, “realizing” is usually the result of sincere questioning (e.g. asking, “Do I really need this?”), such that I tend to equate the two a bit in my mind.
If the answer to your sincere question is that you DO need it, though, then you have to untangle whatever SASS-loaded belief(s) are connected to the thing.