It’s possible to wear clothes that are flattering, but not sexy, I think.
For a female? No, it really is not. But just in case I misunderstand what you mean, care to tell the difference between flattering and sexy? Or link to a couple of pictures of each type and we can let the males here provide feedback on whether what you consider simply flattering is also sexy.
One classic example of flattering but not sexy is coloration that suits you—if you have fair skin, blue-green eyes and salt and pepper hair, a light grey and sage green jacket is going to be flattering, but can range freely from not sexy to sexy.
I’m not confident of it—I’d like it to be possible! I think workwear (suits etc) is probably the closest thing to it, but even that’s often made quite sexy.
doesn’t involve me having to wear uncomfortable and unflattering clothes
Comfortable is easy, comfortable but flattering is harder, comfortable, flattering but not sexy is harder still. Also, I suspect that when women say “comfortable”, they often mean something other than what straight guys mean by the same term. For example, many women would say that wearing basic sweats and a hoodie in public is uncomfortable.
Sorry, I meant “clothes that I feel uncomfortable in,” not “clothes that are physically uncomfortable.” I would feel uncomfortable/less confident in sweats and a hoodie. I appreciate it was the wrong choice of words.
For a female? No, it really is not. But just in case I misunderstand what you mean, care to tell the difference between flattering and sexy? Or link to a couple of pictures of each type and we can let the males here provide feedback on whether what you consider simply flattering is also sexy.
One classic example of flattering but not sexy is coloration that suits you—if you have fair skin, blue-green eyes and salt and pepper hair, a light grey and sage green jacket is going to be flattering, but can range freely from not sexy to sexy.
Not sure of this. A large, colourful wool sweater can be flattering for certain women, but it’s not particularly sexy (in my eyes at least).
I’m not confident of it—I’d like it to be possible! I think workwear (suits etc) is probably the closest thing to it, but even that’s often made quite sexy.
I share your dreams of living in a should-universe :)
Mostly I’d like to have a solution that doesn’t involve me having to wear uncomfortable and unflattering clothes :)!
Comfortable is easy, comfortable but flattering is harder, comfortable, flattering but not sexy is harder still. Also, I suspect that when women say “comfortable”, they often mean something other than what straight guys mean by the same term. For example, many women would say that wearing basic sweats and a hoodie in public is uncomfortable.
Um, high heels?
Sorry, I meant “clothes that I feel uncomfortable in,” not “clothes that are physically uncomfortable.” I would feel uncomfortable/less confident in sweats and a hoodie. I appreciate it was the wrong choice of words.