I post less to PUA/genderthings type threads than my naive inclination would be. Part of this is the (good thing) that there are some people around who sometimes find these threads before I do who I trust to say sane things, many of whom are better at keeping their cool than I am. Part of this is the (bad thing) that I expect to be attacked when I do post, via generalization or just insensitive badgering (and also by voting).
While in such threads, I make a general policy of withholding some relevant personal information, even when I think it could make me more convincing, because I don’t want to paint more of a target on myself, or risk the greater emotional fallout of even that not being persuasive.
I post less to PUA/genderthings type threads than my naive inclination would be. Part of this is the (good thing) that there are some people around who sometimes find these threads before I do who I trust to say sane things, many of whom are better at keeping their cool than I am. Part of this is the (bad thing) that I expect to be attacked when I do post, via generalization or just insensitive badgering (and also by voting).
While in such threads, I make a general policy of withholding some relevant personal information, even when I think it could make me more convincing, because I don’t want to paint more of a target on myself, or risk the greater emotional fallout of even that not being persuasive.