General Semantics has a neat technology, where they can split out different words that normally land on top of each other. If boundary_duncan is different from boundary_segfault, we can just make each of the words more specific, and not have to worry about whether or not they’re the same.
I’ve read thru your explainer of boundary_segfault, and I don’t see how Duncan’s behavior is mismatched. It’s a limit that he set for himself that defines how he interacts with himself, others, and his environment. My guess is that the disagreement here is that under boundary_segfault, describing you as having “poor boundaries” is saying that your limits are poorly set. (Duncan may very well believe this! Tho the claim that you set them for yourself makes judging the limits more questionable. )
That said, “poor boundaries” is sometimes used to describe a poor understanding or respect of other people’s boundaries. It seems to me like you are not correctly predicting how Duncan (or other people in your life!) will react to your messages and behavior, in a way that aligns with you not accurately predicting their boundaries (or predicting them accurately, and then deciding to violate them anyway).
This isn’t something that I do. This is something that I have done
I don’t understand this combination of sentences. Isn’t he describing the same observations you’re describing?
There is a point here that he’s describing it as a tendency you have, instead of an action that happened. But it sure seems like you agree that it’s an action that happened, and I think he’s licensed to believe that it might happen again. As inferences go, this doesn’t seem like an outlandish one to make.
The friends who know me well know that I am a safe person. Those who have spent even a day around me know this, too!
The comments here seem to suggest otherwise.
You talk about consent as being important to you; let’s leave aside questions of sexual consent and focus just on the questions: did Duncan consent to these interactions? Did Duncan ask you to leave him alone? Did you leave him alone?
General Semantics has a neat technology, where they can split out different words that normally land on top of each other. If boundary_duncan is different from boundary_segfault, we can just make each of the words more specific, and not have to worry about whether or not they’re the same.
I’ve read thru your explainer of boundary_segfault, and I don’t see how Duncan’s behavior is mismatched. It’s a limit that he set for himself that defines how he interacts with himself, others, and his environment. My guess is that the disagreement here is that under boundary_segfault, describing you as having “poor boundaries” is saying that your limits are poorly set. (Duncan may very well believe this! Tho the claim that you set them for yourself makes judging the limits more questionable. )
That said, “poor boundaries” is sometimes used to describe a poor understanding or respect of other people’s boundaries. It seems to me like you are not correctly predicting how Duncan (or other people in your life!) will react to your messages and behavior, in a way that aligns with you not accurately predicting their boundaries (or predicting them accurately, and then deciding to violate them anyway).
I don’t understand this combination of sentences. Isn’t he describing the same observations you’re describing?
There is a point here that he’s describing it as a tendency you have, instead of an action that happened. But it sure seems like you agree that it’s an action that happened, and I think he’s licensed to believe that it might happen again. As inferences go, this doesn’t seem like an outlandish one to make.
The comments here seem to suggest otherwise.
You talk about consent as being important to you; let’s leave aside questions of sexual consent and focus just on the questions: did Duncan consent to these interactions? Did Duncan ask you to leave him alone? Did you leave him alone?