So there’s “being honest” and “trying to convince people of things you think are true”, and I think those are at least somewhat different projects. I feel like the first is more obviously good than the second.
I would first ask “what’s my goal” (and, doublecheck why it’s your goal and if you’re being honest with yourself). Like, “I want to be able to say my true thoughts out loud and have an honest open relationship with my relatives” is different from “i don’t want my relatives to believe false things” (the win-condition for the former is about you, the latter is about them). The latter is subtly different from “I want to have presented my best case to them, that they’ll actually listen to, but then let them make up their own mind.”
I’d also note there are additional soft skills you can gain like:
feeling safe/nonjudgmental to talk to
making it feel safe for people to give up ideology (via living-through-example as someone who is happy without being religious)
So there’s “being honest” and “trying to convince people of things you think are true”, and I think those are at least somewhat different projects. I feel like the first is more obviously good than the second.
I would first ask “what’s my goal” (and, doublecheck why it’s your goal and if you’re being honest with yourself). Like, “I want to be able to say my true thoughts out loud and have an honest open relationship with my relatives” is different from “i don’t want my relatives to believe false things” (the win-condition for the former is about you, the latter is about them). The latter is subtly different from “I want to have presented my best case to them, that they’ll actually listen to, but then let them make up their own mind.”
I’d also note there are additional soft skills you can gain like:
feeling safe/nonjudgmental to talk to
making it feel safe for people to give up ideology (via living-through-example as someone who is happy without being religious)
helping people grieve/orient