You’re allowed to ask your CEO “why’d you do X”, you’re allowed to ask a senior Go player “why’d you do X.” They’re more similar than different. As for “punching down,” yeah, chess/go probably have a lot more serious culture of public critical feedback, you could probably write a thinkpiece just on this, but factors include low ego culture and objectivity of sr->jr feedback.
One difference is with CEO is it’s incomplete info. You may be surfacing something they don’t know. Another difference is your interests are different. You’re telling them they made you unhappy and you’re upset about that; that’s not really a thing in a board game where the cultural norm is “try to win.” But if you really are talking to your CEO like “I know better than you” then you do sound like the novice Go player.
Also “omgz thank you for asking your incisive question” is not necessarily a compliment anymore than “your shoes look comfortable.” One explanation is you have a better grasp that publicly punching up is OK and publicly punching down is not OK. Another explanation is they think you’re insane, and you already know they’re quite passive about critical feedback so that would be in character.
You’re allowed to ask your CEO “why’d you do X”, you’re allowed to ask a senior Go player “why’d you do X.” They’re more similar than different. As for “punching down,” yeah, chess/go probably have a lot more serious culture of public critical feedback, you could probably write a thinkpiece just on this, but factors include low ego culture and objectivity of sr->jr feedback.
One difference is with CEO is it’s incomplete info. You may be surfacing something they don’t know. Another difference is your interests are different. You’re telling them they made you unhappy and you’re upset about that; that’s not really a thing in a board game where the cultural norm is “try to win.” But if you really are talking to your CEO like “I know better than you” then you do sound like the novice Go player.
Also “omgz thank you for asking your incisive question” is not necessarily a compliment anymore than “your shoes look comfortable.” One explanation is you have a better grasp that publicly punching up is OK and publicly punching down is not OK. Another explanation is they think you’re insane, and you already know they’re quite passive about critical feedback so that would be in character.