Yup. I am by my nature inclined to this sort of people-pleasing as well, and it’s been a lot of work over the last couple of decades to learn to resist the impulse. Part of that process involved explicitly telling myself, over and over, that (a) people who are displeased when I fail to agree with them don’t deserve to be pleased, and (b) they don’t actually have the ability to make me suffer if I displease them nearly as much as I make myself suffer trying not to.
Yup.
I am by my nature inclined to this sort of people-pleasing as well, and it’s been a lot of work over the last couple of decades to learn to resist the impulse. Part of that process involved explicitly telling myself, over and over, that (a) people who are displeased when I fail to agree with them don’t deserve to be pleased, and (b) they don’t actually have the ability to make me suffer if I displease them nearly as much as I make myself suffer trying not to.