I have vague recollection of maybe Stanford Business School doing that kind of personal feedback in some workshop required for all graduating MBAs.
It is something of a tragedy that no one will tell us what they all know. That guy you always see with the awful comb over—don’t you just want to knock him out and give him a hair cut? But no hair cut ever comes, and no one even tells him that he needs one.
What’s probably worse is that no one tells us all the complimentary things they think about us either. Especially for all the akrasics who think they are imposters.
I think there are two issues with feeling like an “imposter”.
On the one hand, having unrealistic expectations of yourself, so that you are an imposter, by those standards.
The applying an entirely different standard of imposter to other people.
If you applied that same standard, to yourself, using only the kind of publicly available knowledge that you use to judge whether someone else is an imposter, it’s likely you’re not an imposter by those standards at all.
One unrealistic standard for you, a realistic standard for others, and you treat them in your mind like the same thing.
How do other people fare when you apply your own standards to them? How many of them aren’t imposters? If they evaluated like you do, using their own knowledge of their failures and limitations, would they feel like imposters too?
I have vague recollection of maybe Stanford Business School doing that kind of personal feedback in some workshop required for all graduating MBAs.
It is something of a tragedy that no one will tell us what they all know. That guy you always see with the awful comb over—don’t you just want to knock him out and give him a hair cut? But no hair cut ever comes, and no one even tells him that he needs one.
What’s probably worse is that no one tells us all the complimentary things they think about us either. Especially for all the akrasics who think they are imposters.
Upvoted for ego stroking—I like the idea that I might not actually be an imposter.
I think there are two issues with feeling like an “imposter”.
On the one hand, having unrealistic expectations of yourself, so that you are an imposter, by those standards.
The applying an entirely different standard of imposter to other people.
If you applied that same standard, to yourself, using only the kind of publicly available knowledge that you use to judge whether someone else is an imposter, it’s likely you’re not an imposter by those standards at all.
One unrealistic standard for you, a realistic standard for others, and you treat them in your mind like the same thing.
How do other people fare when you apply your own standards to them? How many of them aren’t imposters? If they evaluated like you do, using their own knowledge of their failures and limitations, would they feel like imposters too?