[MENTOR] Parenting. Pragmatics of real-life parenting (four boys, the oldest now 17, the youngest 9) from crying in the night, changing diapers to troubles at school, and conflicts of interest. Also a lot of ideas about what goes on in their brains while they develop. We write a weekly development diary and over time you spot patterns. If you want to know my style you may have a look at some of the parenting posts I did here (and the comments in the other posts in that category).
[APPRENTICE] My first is due in November. I’ve had a very hard time finding evidence-based parenting resources on the Internet that aren’t for extremely bad situations like poverty or abuse. I feel a burning need to be able to roughly model this kid’s subjective experience on a rolling basis because I suspect that’s what will make me the most emotionally effective AND let me impart the most rationality-adjacent thought habits. But the books I’ve come across have been either 1) “it’s all Piaget!” which seems somewhat outdated or 2) “Piaget is a good framework but outdated, and I’ve read some studies, but I’m terrible at synthesis!”.
Even just a reading list would be super great. Or a list of 10 heuristics for making parenting decisions. I feel like I need some kind of systematic approach.
I saw in one of your parenting posts that you cited parentingscience.com, which I’d come across in my searches and looked promising, but I couldn’t get enough clues from the site itself to figure out if it was a good foundation.
I suggest that we have a call so you can figure out whether you generally agree with my model of child development and my approach to parenting. I guess that informs the resources recommended.
[MENTOR] Parenting. Pragmatics of real-life parenting (four boys, the oldest now 17, the youngest 9) from crying in the night, changing diapers to troubles at school, and conflicts of interest. Also a lot of ideas about what goes on in their brains while they develop. We write a weekly development diary and over time you spot patterns. If you want to know my style you may have a look at some of the parenting posts I did here (and the comments in the other posts in that category).
[APPRENTICE] My first is due in November. I’ve had a very hard time finding evidence-based parenting resources on the Internet that aren’t for extremely bad situations like poverty or abuse. I feel a burning need to be able to roughly model this kid’s subjective experience on a rolling basis because I suspect that’s what will make me the most emotionally effective AND let me impart the most rationality-adjacent thought habits. But the books I’ve come across have been either 1) “it’s all Piaget!” which seems somewhat outdated or 2) “Piaget is a good framework but outdated, and I’ve read some studies, but I’m terrible at synthesis!”.
Even just a reading list would be super great. Or a list of 10 heuristics for making parenting decisions. I feel like I need some kind of systematic approach.
I saw in one of your parenting posts that you cited parentingscience.com, which I’d come across in my searches and looked promising, but I couldn’t get enough clues from the site itself to figure out if it was a good foundation.
I suggest that we have a call so you can figure out whether you generally agree with my model of child development and my approach to parenting. I guess that informs the resources recommended.
Best time to have a call is after 9 PM CEST.
supposedlyfun and I arranged a mentoring and you can find a summary of our collaboration in this LW post.