I agree that win-first and chill-first personalities often clash
I suspect it’s not right to call them personalities: personally I know that I can be either win-first or chill-first, depending on what the situation is and what my priorities are.
I’d expect any non-seriously-depressed person to be win-first with regard to some issue that matters a lot to them, and conversely, being win-first on something forces you to be chill-first on something else, since you can’t put 100% effort into everything you do.
[Epistemic status: anecdata and perspective generation]
I think it’s not right in the general case, but it may be more right than not as an approximation here, since what’s described might be indicative of defaults regarding intensity. In my experience, default intensities do feel roughly bimodal among my peers, and in fact one of my current life strategy issues is to figure out how not to fall too far into line with the less-intense subset that currently dominate my social graph.
Another read on that might be that even when the resultant intensities differ widely between activities and situations and may overlap or cross over between a “win-first” individual and a “chill-first” individual, there’s still an underlying difference in something like focus, salience, or differential habituation to up-regulation versus down-regulation of intensity.
I suspect it’s not right to call them personalities: personally I know that I can be either win-first or chill-first, depending on what the situation is and what my priorities are.
I’d expect any non-seriously-depressed person to be win-first with regard to some issue that matters a lot to them, and conversely, being win-first on something forces you to be chill-first on something else, since you can’t put 100% effort into everything you do.
[Epistemic status: anecdata and perspective generation]
I think it’s not right in the general case, but it may be more right than not as an approximation here, since what’s described might be indicative of defaults regarding intensity. In my experience, default intensities do feel roughly bimodal among my peers, and in fact one of my current life strategy issues is to figure out how not to fall too far into line with the less-intense subset that currently dominate my social graph.
Another read on that might be that even when the resultant intensities differ widely between activities and situations and may overlap or cross over between a “win-first” individual and a “chill-first” individual, there’s still an underlying difference in something like focus, salience, or differential habituation to up-regulation versus down-regulation of intensity.