Yes, this is a difficult situation. If there is a 50% chance someone did a bad thing, from certain perspective feeling 50% angry sounds like the best you can do.
From another perspective, either the person did the bad thing and then you just forgave them 50% for no reason, or the person didn’t do the thing and then you are 50% angry at an innocent person, wrong outcome in both cases. (Imagine a judge saying: “so, with probability 50% this person is a serial killer, and with probability 50% they are completely innocent… therefore, 10 years in prison sound quite fair to me”.)
Intellectually, we should distinguish between “a certainly of minor crime” and “a small probability of a big crime”. What are the proper emotional equivalents, I don’t know. Perhaps there is no good solution, because our emotions were not designed to be fair.
Yes, this is a difficult situation. If there is a 50% chance someone did a bad thing, from certain perspective feeling 50% angry sounds like the best you can do.
From another perspective, either the person did the bad thing and then you just forgave them 50% for no reason, or the person didn’t do the thing and then you are 50% angry at an innocent person, wrong outcome in both cases. (Imagine a judge saying: “so, with probability 50% this person is a serial killer, and with probability 50% they are completely innocent… therefore, 10 years in prison sound quite fair to me”.)
Intellectually, we should distinguish between “a certainly of minor crime” and “a small probability of a big crime”. What are the proper emotional equivalents, I don’t know. Perhaps there is no good solution, because our emotions were not designed to be fair.
Thanks for the comment. That’s a good way of putting it, and it is nice to know I am not the only one who struggles with this.