I expected that.
My own opinion is that if it is necessary for some reason, it’s a good idea, but personally I’d rather be possibly, indirectly, and one instance of a poorly understood syndrome responsible for my baby’s death than actually being the one that crushed him.
It seems that sleeping separately very drastically decreases your chances of personally killing your baby in your sleep.
Such are your desires, then, at the object level. But do you also desire that they be your desires? Are you satisfied with being the sort of person who cares more about avoiding guilt and personal responsibility than about the actual survival and well-being of his/her child? Or would you change your preferences, if you could?
My desires concerning what my desires should be are also determined by my desires, so your question is not valid, it’s a recursive loop. You are first assuming that I care about anything at all, secondly assuming that I experience guilt at all, and thirdly that I would care about my children. As it turns out, you are correct on all three assumptions, just keep in mind that those are not always givens among humans.
What I was saying was that in the two situations (my child dies due to SIDS), and (my child dies due to me rolling over onto him), in the first situation not only could I trick myself into believing it wasn’t my fault, it’s also completely possible that it really wasn’t my fault, and that it had some other cause; in the second situation, there’s really no question, and a very concrete way to prevent it.
To answer your unasked question, I still do not alieve that keeping my child a safe distance away while sleeping but showing love and care at all other times increases her chance of SIDS. If I was to be shown conclusive research of cause and effect between them, I would reverse my current opinion, mos’ def.
Your second-order desires are fixed by your desires as a whole, trivially. But they aren’t fixed by your first-order desires. So it makes sense for me to ask whether you harbor a second-order desire to change your first-order desires in this case, or whether you are reflectively satisfied with your first-order desires.
Consider the alcoholic who desires to stop craving alcohol (a second-order desire), but who continues to drink alcohol (because his first-order desires are stronger than his desire-desires). Presumably your first-order desires are currently defeating your second-order ones, else you’d have already switched first-order desires. But it doesn’t follow from this that your second-order desires are nonexistent!
Perhaps, for instance, your second-order desire is strong enough that if you could simply push a button to forever effortlessly change your first-order desires, you would do so; but your second-order desire isn’t so strong that you’ll change first-order desires by willpower alone, without having a magic button to press. This, I think, is an extremely common situation humans find themselves in. So I was curious whether you were satisfied or unsatisfied with your current first-order priorities.
I still do not alieve that keeping my child a safe distance away while sleeping but showing love and care at all other times increases her chance of SIDS. If I was to be shown conclusive research of cause and effect between them, I would reverse my current opinion, mos’ def.
So it’s not really the case that you’d prioritize psychological-guilt-avoidance over SIDS-avoidance? In that case the question is less interesting, since it’s just a matter of how well you can think yourself into the hypothetical in which you have to choose between, say, increasing your child’s odds of surviving by 1% and the cost of, say, increasing your guilt-if-the-child-does-die by 200%.
In that case the question is less interesting, since it’s just a matter of how well you can think yourself into the hypothetical in which you have to choose between, say, increasing your child’s odds of surviving by 1% and the cost of, say, increasing your guilt-if-the-child-does-die by 200%.
I guess, but in real life I don’t sit down with a calculator to figure that out; I’d settle for some definitive research.
Your second-order desires are fixed by your desires as a whole, trivially. But they aren’t fixed by your first-order desires. So it makes sense for me to ask whether you harbor a second-order desire to change your first-order desires in this case, or whether you are reflectively satisfied with your first-order desires.
[all that quote], trivially. What I am saying is that even my “own” desires and the goals that I think are right are only what they are because of my biology and upbringing. If I seek to “debug” myself, it’s still only according to a value system that is adapted to perpetuate our DNA. So to answer truthfully, I am NOT satisfied with my first-order desires, in fact I am not satisfied with being trapped in a human body, from which the first-order desires are spawned.
It seems that sleeping separately very drastically decreases your chances of personally killing your baby in your sleep.
In the story, maybe. I think nowadays you can get specially designed cribs that sort of merge onto the bed, so you’re co-sleeping but can’t roll onto your baby–see http://www.armsreach.com/
I’m involved in a local Native American community and one of the medicine elders I know often makes a sort of device for families with infant children, especially ones with colic or other sleep-disrupting conditions. It’s kind of a cradle-sling type thing you hang securely above your own bed; if kiddo’s crying but otherwise okay you can just reach up and rock them, and they’re otherwise within reach. I’ve seen replicas of the pre-contact version, and even made of birchbark and hung from the rafters of a lodge with sinew it’s evidently still quite sturdy and safe; like, you’d have to knock over the house for it to be an issue. These days, using modern materials, they’re even safer. So this goes back quite a long way.
Then I still blame the mother in the story for not building one of those!
That is pretty neat, I wholeheartedly endorse using those, just in case. In the unlikely event that I produce more biological offspring, I will make use of that knowledge.
I expected that. My own opinion is that if it is necessary for some reason, it’s a good idea, but personally I’d rather be possibly, indirectly, and one instance of a poorly understood syndrome responsible for my baby’s death than actually being the one that crushed him.
It seems that sleeping separately very drastically decreases your chances of personally killing your baby in your sleep.
Such are your desires, then, at the object level. But do you also desire that they be your desires? Are you satisfied with being the sort of person who cares more about avoiding guilt and personal responsibility than about the actual survival and well-being of his/her child? Or would you change your preferences, if you could?
My desires concerning what my desires should be are also determined by my desires, so your question is not valid, it’s a recursive loop. You are first assuming that I care about anything at all, secondly assuming that I experience guilt at all, and thirdly that I would care about my children. As it turns out, you are correct on all three assumptions, just keep in mind that those are not always givens among humans.
What I was saying was that in the two situations (my child dies due to SIDS), and (my child dies due to me rolling over onto him), in the first situation not only could I trick myself into believing it wasn’t my fault, it’s also completely possible that it really wasn’t my fault, and that it had some other cause; in the second situation, there’s really no question, and a very concrete way to prevent it.
To answer your unasked question, I still do not alieve that keeping my child a safe distance away while sleeping but showing love and care at all other times increases her chance of SIDS. If I was to be shown conclusive research of cause and effect between them, I would reverse my current opinion, mos’ def.
Your second-order desires are fixed by your desires as a whole, trivially. But they aren’t fixed by your first-order desires. So it makes sense for me to ask whether you harbor a second-order desire to change your first-order desires in this case, or whether you are reflectively satisfied with your first-order desires.
Consider the alcoholic who desires to stop craving alcohol (a second-order desire), but who continues to drink alcohol (because his first-order desires are stronger than his desire-desires). Presumably your first-order desires are currently defeating your second-order ones, else you’d have already switched first-order desires. But it doesn’t follow from this that your second-order desires are nonexistent!
Perhaps, for instance, your second-order desire is strong enough that if you could simply push a button to forever effortlessly change your first-order desires, you would do so; but your second-order desire isn’t so strong that you’ll change first-order desires by willpower alone, without having a magic button to press. This, I think, is an extremely common situation humans find themselves in. So I was curious whether you were satisfied or unsatisfied with your current first-order priorities.
So it’s not really the case that you’d prioritize psychological-guilt-avoidance over SIDS-avoidance? In that case the question is less interesting, since it’s just a matter of how well you can think yourself into the hypothetical in which you have to choose between, say, increasing your child’s odds of surviving by 1% and the cost of, say, increasing your guilt-if-the-child-does-die by 200%.
I guess, but in real life I don’t sit down with a calculator to figure that out; I’d settle for some definitive research.
[all that quote], trivially. What I am saying is that even my “own” desires and the goals that I think are right are only what they are because of my biology and upbringing. If I seek to “debug” myself, it’s still only according to a value system that is adapted to perpetuate our DNA. So to answer truthfully, I am NOT satisfied with my first-order desires, in fact I am not satisfied with being trapped in a human body, from which the first-order desires are spawned.
In the story, maybe. I think nowadays you can get specially designed cribs that sort of merge onto the bed, so you’re co-sleeping but can’t roll onto your baby–see http://www.armsreach.com/
I’m involved in a local Native American community and one of the medicine elders I know often makes a sort of device for families with infant children, especially ones with colic or other sleep-disrupting conditions. It’s kind of a cradle-sling type thing you hang securely above your own bed; if kiddo’s crying but otherwise okay you can just reach up and rock them, and they’re otherwise within reach. I’ve seen replicas of the pre-contact version, and even made of birchbark and hung from the rafters of a lodge with sinew it’s evidently still quite sturdy and safe; like, you’d have to knock over the house for it to be an issue. These days, using modern materials, they’re even safer. So this goes back quite a long way.
Then I still blame the mother in the story for not building one of those!
That is pretty neat, I wholeheartedly endorse using those, just in case. In the unlikely event that I produce more biological offspring, I will make use of that knowledge.