Being resentful of inevitable reality (I’m not tall enough or fast enough to ever make it onto the NBA, no matter how hard I practice) makes about as much sense as being angry at the sky for being blue, or at your eyes for only having three colour sensors. Yes, it sucks, but reality isn’t an entity which you can influence by yelling at. This sort of resentment is counter-productive.
In the second sense, bitterness can become an excuse for why you never cross over to the ideal Maxima. Are you sure this is the maximum of your potential? Really? Really? The only thing you can control in this world is yourself; assigning agency to outside forces detracts that agency from your own abilities. Even if you’re right, and fate has it in for you, growing resentful will do nothing but make things worse.
Your maximum while being resentful is not as high as your maximum without it.
I have two objections:
Being resentful of inevitable reality (I’m not tall enough or fast enough to ever make it onto the NBA, no matter how hard I practice) makes about as much sense as being angry at the sky for being blue, or at your eyes for only having three colour sensors. Yes, it sucks, but reality isn’t an entity which you can influence by yelling at. This sort of resentment is counter-productive.
In the second sense, bitterness can become an excuse for why you never cross over to the ideal Maxima. Are you sure this is the maximum of your potential? Really? Really? The only thing you can control in this world is yourself; assigning agency to outside forces detracts that agency from your own abilities. Even if you’re right, and fate has it in for you, growing resentful will do nothing but make things worse.
Your maximum while being resentful is not as high as your maximum without it.
you’re speaking a little more concretely. I was more thinking “we don’t have flying cars because NASA and the FAA suck”.