It isn’t a single universal strategy. It is spending the time necessary to investigate. In this case it would be investigating what portraying others as pathetic is getting me, likely a motivation to ‘not be pathetic’ and therby take actions that I think are good. The issue is then that I don’t endorse such negative motivation. So what’s the positive thing that ‘not being pathetic’ gets me? If those things I am working towards are good, is there something blocking me feeling motivated by their goodness directly?
Note this sort of investigation involves primarily feeling tones a la Gendlin’s Focusing, so it probably doesn’t sound very compelling written out.
It isn’t a single universal strategy. It is spending the time necessary to investigate. In this case it would be investigating what portraying others as pathetic is getting me, likely a motivation to ‘not be pathetic’ and therby take actions that I think are good. The issue is then that I don’t endorse such negative motivation. So what’s the positive thing that ‘not being pathetic’ gets me? If those things I am working towards are good, is there something blocking me feeling motivated by their goodness directly? Note this sort of investigation involves primarily feeling tones a la Gendlin’s Focusing, so it probably doesn’t sound very compelling written out.