For a while I’ve wondered, why do the comments feel a lot like replies? Well, I’m not a big fan of the former two and don’t generally see them as being aimed at a conversation instead, or at all, as they serve no filtering for your own preferences, so I’m mostly just an unsympathetic, unsympathetic guy.
Now, I have a pretty clear understanding of what they are about. I have a vague sense that they often feel like they’re “somewhat” antagonistic, and the way that I feel about it is closer to “somewhat”, or to “extremely” hostile. Sometimes I just want to feel like I’m in some kind of weird mental state. Like, maybe I feel like I’m in some kind of weird mental state, and a person who says things like that is hostile.
On the other other hand, I don’t think anything particularly weird is being meant as an insult. I’d get the same reaction when you say something obvious and have no intention of doing so, but I suspect there is some weird emotional machinery behind the “hurtful” reaction that feels that way to me.
(I personally have a vague sense that it’s the opposite reaction, and that it’s more of a feeling of being talked about as weird, possibly harmful, than it is. I think those two things should be correlated, but I don’t see it as an inherent property.)
It looks to me like your post isn’t a reply to mine but intended to be an answer to something else.
For a while I’ve wondered, why do the comments feel a lot like replies? Well, I’m not a big fan of the former two and don’t generally see them as being aimed at a conversation instead, or at all, as they serve no filtering for your own preferences, so I’m mostly just an unsympathetic, unsympathetic guy.
Now, I have a pretty clear understanding of what they are about. I have a vague sense that they often feel like they’re “somewhat” antagonistic, and the way that I feel about it is closer to “somewhat”, or to “extremely” hostile. Sometimes I just want to feel like I’m in some kind of weird mental state. Like, maybe I feel like I’m in some kind of weird mental state, and a person who says things like that is hostile.
On the other other hand, I don’t think anything particularly weird is being meant as an insult. I’d get the same reaction when you say something obvious and have no intention of doing so, but I suspect there is some weird emotional machinery behind the “hurtful” reaction that feels that way to me.
(I personally have a vague sense that it’s the opposite reaction, and that it’s more of a feeling of being talked about as weird, possibly harmful, than it is. I think those two things should be correlated, but I don’t see it as an inherent property.)